Watching TV Watching

One of my favorite moments in watching television with friends was last year after the Writer's Strike.  My suitemate and I were watching The Office, and it was an episode that was huge for a few of our favorite characters.  We had been waiting for these two characters to get engaged, and the guy kept teasing it but never went through.  Well, the first time he was teasing her, he got on one knee and said "Pam, will you....wait for my while I tie my shoe?"  My friend and I FROZE and gasped and yelled (yes- at the same time) as he knelt down.  We couldn't believe he was going to propose there on the sidewalk.  And then, he pulled the joke, we sighed in shock.  It's just a show, and we got that wrapped up into it.  

Another memorable moment in TV viewing history was in high school when my friends and I were not even together watching the show.  We were watching the Season 3 finale of The OC when a main character died in a car accident.  Immediately afterwards, I called a friend and we discussed it for probably longer than we should have.  It was a pop culture hit within the high school audiences and everyone was buzzing about it.

It's amazing how groups of people can get so involved in a show that we hold premier parties, quote it daily (maybe not daily), and make audible and emotional reactions to what we see on screen.

If you watch a TV program alone, it does allow you to focus and (at least with girls) there are few chances to have chatter interrupt the viewing process.  It is nice to be able to make your own opinions and decide for yourself what you think of situations before everyone gets together.  If someone sees something on screen that is displeasing or especially exciting, then those emotions can transfer to the group.  

However, watching it in a group is more fun than alone because everyone reacts together, whether it is the same reaction or not.  With the common interest, everyone can talk about it later.  Its an excuse for everyone to get together (not that we need it) and it opens communication.   We all may like the show, but when we watch it together, why each of us likes it is apparent.  It is not always for the same reason.  One may like a bit of drama added into a comedy while another sees it too depressing.  The differences within a common interest come out.  People also have different speculations about how the show will turn out, and it is always neat to see the different ideas and to bounce ideas off of others, even though we have no influence on the show's actual outcome.  

All of these results from watching a show with a group of people create communication and creative thinking.  Therefore, watching these programs with people is just as much of a social thing as it is secluding ourselves from the outside world to watch TV.

Feeling Hyped

This post ties into my previous discussion about politics.  The one form of media that was the most upsetting was the campaign commercials for the 2008 Presidential Elections (or any other election, really).  I understand that when the competition gets close to the finish line, more extreme measures are taken to ensure votes.  Yet, why do the commercials turn into malicious bashing of the other candidate?

Since when should we as citizens care more about how well one can put down a candidate over what they stand for?  Can't we make the decision ourselves that someone may not be the best candidate without the constant influence of others?  Apparently not.

For instance, it irks me when the commercials become less on why we should vote for a candidate but why we should not vote for another.  It is just giving the other candidate more publicity.

In the case of the recent election, these commercials would attack issues that would not be all that important.  McCain would say Obama was inexperienced and a celebrity, while Obama said McCain was old and out of touch.  Even if all of that was "true" it really should not come into play.  But at the end of the campaign, they use any tactic, any measure, to sway the voters.  

Why is it so negative?  There is nothing wrong with comparing, but when does it get to be too much? This does not necessarily reflect my political views, but it seemed like McCain's party was way ahead on the negative messages than Obama's.  Now, was that because McCain was more experienced and knew the ropes or because Obama was less concerned with securing the votes?

Either way, it is not about what is bad about one party coming through the mouths of the opposite.  It is about what is good and what is, most importantly, relevant.  

The glass should be half full, but it never is when it comes to politics.  There is always something to complain about.

Discovering Politics

I feel as though the only experience I get regarding politics is through the media.  Focusing on the President,  I have never seen the President's speeches live nor have I never talked to him directly.  Therefore, how I see the president is always through the media.  This does not mean the media always filters or changes what we see. Sometimes it is just about the live broadcast of historical events like watching debates through CNN that reflect the media and politics. 

How I view politics has changed dramatically over the past years, but it seems only right.  This was the first election I have been able to vote, and it was a learning experience.  As I get older, I am more affected by the government, and it has been a culture shock over the years.  When you are young, the president is the president and that is it.  Now, I know just how important it is because the country depends on it.  I was fine thinking that all presidents had the same view-- almost like there was a handbook they had to follow.  It was the naivete of being 10 years old.  

This year, the media was buzzing with the presidential election.  I do not know if it was because I was paying closer attention or if because there was more excitement over the craziness that was the 2008 election.  People were generally scared and stressed about Obama being President.  I could not imagine why anyone would be "scared."  What did they think he was going to do?  Support terrorism?  Make the USA a socialist country? Again, I may just be ill-informed, but there are checks for the president, and I didn't see it something to stress over because essentially, when all boils down, it is out of our hands because it is a combined effort.

What exemplified it even more was that the media was in a frenzy over Obama's every move.  For instance, I had never seen such outlandish commercials for each campaign as the competition heated up.  I was tired of seeing anti-Obama commercials by McCain's party.  I could not believe people would believe it, but they did.  It is interesting to see that as the election gets closer, the more and more malicious the campaign gets.  Thanks to the media, this it is possible for it to reach vast audiences.  And the parties use and almost abuse the power of the media.

The biggest media influence that hit me personally was when Obama was sworn into office.  I had class all day.  I wanted so much to see this piece of history.  Thankfully, my teacher recognized this and let the class out early.  Had it not been for broadcasting technology, I would have never been allowed to witness the ceremony.  A long time ago, only a select part of the United States could witness, but now, people all around the world can see the Inauguration.  Same with the debates.  I would have never seen those either, and I feel like they are a big part in helping Americans decide who to vote or.  

Seeing Gender

Immediately when I read about this topic, I thought about my AP Psychology class in high school.  We went through this lesson about the differences between gender identity, gender role and gender...well, there was a third term, but I can't remember now.  They were all different, showing how one identifies themselves, how others identify them, and how they externally depict themselves.  It was all very confusing, but very interesting.  They all had profound differences that were almost hard to see at first.  All of these psychological ways we identify ourselves and others is important to shaping a gender identity.

Now tying this into the media makes the gender question even more broad.  It includes all of these outside influences that help form the most basic kind of self-identification. One would think that it was something the media has no influence on, but it does.

The media is always challenging, questioning and shaping what it means to be a female.  Advertisers take stereotypical approaches to appeal to what many women have in common.  Whether it is shopping for the right clothes, or searching for the right cleaner, we are being told how to clean and what we should wear and how to do it.  Television shows like "What Not To Wear" focuses mainly on women showing what people should be wearing and what they shouldn't.  I agree with the show on a certain level because society wants people to look a certain way, but do clothes and makeup really matter? Why is everyone so happy when these ladies put on high heels, makeup and get their hair blow-dried.  Women need to dress to show off their figure and dress in the latest and classiest trends.  Why do we have to show off our figure?  Just so everyone knows we are women?  Is it really all based on appearance?  I would hope not.  But it is, and we have accepted it.

Speaking of society, the media has shaped what society should think.  We make a big deal when women preserve their youth, and tear them down when they wear "ridiculous" clothes. We, as women, see this and know what side of the society spectrum we want to be on.  We want to look young and we want to be applauded on such personal choices.  We have been trained that we should look young and glamorous because that is how females are supposed to look.  The media plays up these ideas with movies, magazines, shows, critics and more.  We have totally turned around how women are seen as and what it means to be female.  It seems to be more complex than ever thanks to the media.

Forming a Style

No one can say that they do not care how they look or what they wear.  You have to have some opinion on it if you are going to wear it.  Everyone has a style, even if that means they really don't have style. But what does it mean to have style, and who decides what is stylish?  Fashionistas in New York?   Heidi Klum?  No one has claim.  When it comes to clothes, there are general guidelines that are laid out by society as to when to look professional, and when to be casual, and when to dress up.  Through each of these times, one's style shows and it communicates a message.

I could not describe my style in one category.  I am basic but I can be flashy, I am simple but I like to accessorize.  I am pretty conservative, but not stingy.  I dress day to day depending on how I feel.  However, these general patterns do exist in my entire closet.   I love black and color, stripes and solids, it all just depends.  I know what colors to wear and what not to wear.  

I think that how we use clothes to communicate is mostly in our subconscious.  It is not always easy to pinpoint why we like something- we just know if fits well within us.  But, as I have discovered, what I like has a lot to do with what may be "in fashion".  Back in middle school, I hated jeans that didn't flare.  I thought they looked old fashioned and short.  And I have been wearing these jeans for about 3 years.  Inversely, I used to wear short shirts, and now all I can think about is the 1990s with weird midriff shirts.  Interesting how opinions change with society and how one thing can be weird one year, and "all the rage" the next.

My group of friends and I all dress every similar, and I think we all wish to communicate similar things.  We are all different (obviously) so our styles are going to be different too.  But we all dress to express ourselves. When it comes down to it, I hope that my clothes communicate confidence, flattery, femininity, simplicity (but show that I do make an effort) and comfort.

I care because it is a simple yet very prominent way to express my style in a way people can relate.

Interpreting Technologies

The form of technology I can not go day to day without is my cell phone.  I have had a cell phone literally since I was in 7th grade because my friends and I would go on bike rides (it was a safety thing).  Now, I use it for communication while at school and at home, but that initial purpose of making sure I have a way out is still there.  Hence, I use it to communicate, but it is not just for catching up with friends.

The other day I was at home, and I was about to go out shopping.  My parents were out and I was enjoying some time alone.  I got into my car and realized my phone was still on my night stand.  I sat there, contemplating if I needed it.  No one was going to call me, and I did not really have anyone to call.  And besides, I would need to get out of the car, weave around the kayaks and other cars in the garage to get back inside.  I already set the house alarm and the dogs probably accepted I had left- I didn't want toy with their emotions anymore.  But then I began to think of how I felt without it.  I then worried that I could get into a situation where I needed it.  And what if someone needed me?  I hated not having it, and I went back in the house and got it.

So, the point of my story is that without it, I felt less safe.  I had the outlook like the world was a more harmful place.  I felt exposed and yet cut off from the world.  I could have gone the entire trip (I went no farther than about 20 minutes from my house), not realized I had left my phone, and been fine.  But because I knew I didn't have it, I began worrying about car accidents, or other emergencies where I would need it.  I also wondered what my parents would think if they could not get a hold of me.  They are by no means overprotective, but they know by now it would be odd for me not to have it on while I was home.  All of these things I consider...

Aside from safety, I feel totally alone without my phone.  This time last year, my phone was out of commission, and I panicked.  We just had a death in the family, so I could not talk to anyone about that, and my birthday was coming, and I was afraid I could talk to no one then.   I became so used to my phone, it was a terrible feeling to know I could not reach my family instantaneously.  I felt less safe and more alone.

My life has changed since I really got used to using my phone (which was not until high school, really) and now without it, I feel less safe and more alone. 

Reading Places

One of the most profound centers for communication, for me, is in the dorm.  It may not be the most excting place, but it a huge part of college life when you are living in it.  Also, I am an Resident Advisor, so part of my job is mandating and encouraging this conversation in the hall.

We communicate to the residents through many media texts, but most is through face-to-face talking.  We have white boards to write messages, and flyers we publish, and I will print surveys, but we get the most feedback when we go and physically talk to people.  This really is beneficial because part of being an RA is letting the residents know I am approachable and that I am not out to police the hallway. 

What is the best aspect of the dorms is that it has a certain feel to it- everyone is living there, so right from the start we have something in common.  The dorms communicate a sense of security and, to a certain extent, independence.  Some people may not agree with the regulations, but there is no doubt that they are made safe.  

This form of communication is not to merely speak to those around you.  It is to build a comfortable community that makes the college experience for the girls a memorable one.  

Something that affected me greatly was when I was a freshman moving in to the dorms was that I was shocked to see my door had my name and my roommates names on the door.  Instantly, my perception of the dorm changed.  It was more like a summer camp feel that an apartment building, and I knew it was going to be more personal than I thought.  Also the halls were decorated, making it more fun and homey. ( I also think this has more of an effect on girls than guys in this instance.  Correct me if I am wrong. I don't know if they take the time to think about the influence).

Now that I am the one making the door tags and decorating the halls, I am able to influence others perceptions of the dorms as well.  It is the little ways we communicate through the time we put into making the halls comfortable and fun that make such a difference.  We all enjoy ,making them, and I don't think the residents know how disappointing it is when they are torn down (Really. Stop doing that!).

I know that these little messages, decorations and just saying hi to people in the halls makes a difference.  It was something I appreciated when I was a resident, and now I can appreciate the outcome of it more now that I am an advisor.